Same-sex marriage supporters in Utah denounce opponents’ use of children in protest media

kids & gay marriageAssociated Press: Sept. 21, 2014 – Marriage equality supporters condemn use of kids’ photos at anti-gay rally – LGBTQ Nation.

Hey, men! What’s the difference between f**king and making love? There is one!

makinglove,2The Good Men Project: Sept. 21, 2014 – F***ing and Making Love: What’s the Difference, Men? -.

‘Don’t Ask Don’t Tell’ is done, but hurdles remain for LGBT veterans and service members

lgbt-4Washington Post: Sept. 21, 2014 – ‘Don’t ask, don’t tell’ is over. But challenges remain for LGBT veterans and service members – The Washington Post.

When there’s no gender that fits, is there a right just to be?

gender IDWashington Post: Sept. 21, 2014 – When no gender fits: A quest to be seen as just a person – The Washington Post.

Assembling the pieces of a shattered sexual identity – and emerging whole

Charles M. Blow

New York Times: Sept. 21, 2014 – Up From Pain –

Sept. 21, 2014 – Today’s Gift from Hazelden

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The Serenity Prayer

Sunday, Sept. 21, 2014

Today’s thought from Hazelden is:

I couldn’t hit a wall with a six-gun, but I can twirl one. It looks good.
 — John Wayne

Many of us fake emotions because our past experiences never taught us how to use boundaries when dealing with feelings. Now we are oftentimes stumped when it comes to knowing how we should feel or act when we are faced with emotional situations.

Sometimes we need to learn to “fake it till we make it.” What is asked of us is to act the part until the part becomes us.

We may not know how to feel anticipation around holidays – but we want to experience joy. We may not know what it feels like to really trust someone, but we would love to be in that position. What we can learn to do is “act as if” – working all the time to liberate the frozen emotions of years gone by – until we actually do experience what we seek.

Like new shoes, my new behaviors and feelings will feel stiff and uncomfortable for a little while. I am willing to live through the “breaking in” period.

From the book:

Days of Healing, Days of Joy by Earnie Larsen and Carol Larsen Hegarty

Days of Healing, Days of Joy by Earnie Larsen and Carol Larsen Hegarty

Sept. 21, 2014 – The Eye Opener

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The Serenity Prayer

The Eye Opener
Sunday, Sept. 21, 2014

If most of us had one wish, we’d wish we hadn’t had it. Most of all, our difficulties in the past resulted from our persistence in doing what we wished. To us alcoholics, our wishes were paramount and everything else was sacrificed in order to accomplish them.

From here on in, if we are smart, our wishes will be not what we want, but a sincere desire to want what God wishes.

Hazelden Foundation

Sept. 21, 2014 – A Day at a Time

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The Serenity Prayer

A Day at a Time
Sunday, Sept. 21, 2014

Reflection for the Day
I’ve heard it said that when God closes a door, He opens a window. Since I started working the Twelve Steps, much of the fear and pain that haunted my life is gone. Some of my defects have been lifted from me, though I’m still wrestling with others. I believe that if I continue to work the Twelve Steps over and over again, my life will continue to improve – physically, mentally and spiritually.

Am I more willing and better able to help others by working the Steps myself?

Today I Pray
I give thanks to God for showing me that the Twelve Steps are a stairway to a saner life. As I re-work them conscientiously, my life does get better, healthier and nearer to my Higher Power. As I continue to live them, may I feel the same gratitude and exaltation of spirit as those who are just now discovering them.

Today I Will Remember
Step by Step, day by day.

Hazelden Foundation

Sept. 21, 2014 – Step by Step

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The Serenity Prayer

Step by Step
Sunday, Sept. 21, 2014

“…(W)e launched out on a course of vigorous action, the first step of which is a personal housecleaning, which many of us had never attempted. Though our decision was a vital and crucial step, it could have little permanent effect unless at once followed by a strenuous effort to face, and to be rid of, the things in ourselves which had been blocking us. Our liquor was but a symptom. So we had to get down to causes and conditions.
“Therefore, we started upon a personal inventory. This was Step Four.” – Alcoholics Anonymous, 3rd Edition, 1976, Ch 5 (“How It Works”), pp 63-4.

Today, I seek the courage and honesty to face alcoholism as a symptom of the “causes and conditions” of my addictive personality, and I pray for the knowledge to treat those causes rather than just the symptoms. Courage, honesty and willingness are the prerequisite of the Fourth Step because, without all three, my recovery from any addiction cannot be fully realized and may set me up for failure by way of a relapse or simply trading one addiction for another. For many of us, drinking developed after years of hoarding emotional and spiritual garbage, and the pile grew in our drinking days. In coming to the decision that we no longer want and are eager to clean out the garbage, we may be on a solid foundation to make our Fourth Step as thorough as it can be. Grant that we be graced with the courage and strength to make our house as clean as we can make it. And our common journey continues. Step by step. – Chris M., 2014

Sept. 21, 2014 – Twenty-Four Hours a Day

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The Serenity Prayer

Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Sunday, Sept. 21, 2014

AA Thought for the Day
Let us continue with Steps Four, Five, Six, Seven and Ten. In taking a personal inventory of ourselves, we have to face facts as they really are. We have to stop running away. We must face reality. We must see ourselves as we really are. We must admit our faults openly and try to correct them. We must try to see where we have been dishonest, impure, selfish and unloving. We do not do this once and forget it. We do it every day of our lives, as long as we live. We are never done with checking up on ourselves.

Am I taking a daily inventory of myself?

Meditation for the Day
In improving our personal lives, we have Unseen help. We were not made so that we could see God. That would be too easy for us and there would be no merit in obeying Him. It takes an act of Faith, a venture of belief, to realize the Unseen Power. Yet we have much evidence of God’s existence in the strength that many people have received from the act of faith, the venture of belief. We are in a box of space and time and we can see neither our souls nor God. God and the human spirit are both outside the limitations of space and time. Yet our Unseen help is effective here and now. That has been proved in thousands of changed lives.

Prayer for the Day
I pray that I may make the great venture of belief. I pray that my vision may not be blocked by intellectual pride.

Hazelden Foundation


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